So, I've had several emails and comments from people who seem pretty upset about the fact that Tricia may not get to touch and hold Gwyneth before her transplant. Let me explain why this is so that you can maybe understand why we're at peace about it and so that others who may find themselves in a similar situation can have another resource to turn to. I'll try to keep this simple, mainly because I only understand it simply.
There are two reasons that the doctors are being very cautious about Tricia and Gwyneth:
1) Tricia has been on contact isolation (meaning nobody is allowed inside her room without a gown and gloves) since she went to ICU because she has a drug-resistant bug in her body somewhere (probably her gut), and meaning that, when she leaves her room, she basically cannot touch or breathe on anything or anyone. This bug is probably something that she picked up in the hospital (very common). It is not something that should not be much of a danger to her, but it could be dangerous to others, especially preemies with undeveloped immune systems.
2) We believe that Tricia's Earlier Psychosis was partially brought on by the emotions and thoughts that flooded her mind and heart when she was able to see Gwyneth last Friday and Saturday. The last thing we need right now is for Tricia to relapse into that mental state again because she is allowed to see the baby again. The doctors, again, are being very cautious about this, and we hope that she will be able to visit Gwyneth again on Monday when she has shown them that she is fairly stable.
So, for Tricia to touch and/or hold Gwyneth would be incredibly dangerous for both of them. The primary objective of Gwyneth's team is to help her grow as healthy as possible so that we can take her home as soon as possible. The primary objective of Tricia's team is to get her as healthy as possible before the transplant surgery so that we can take her home as soon as possible.
Tricia is incredibly sick right now...her body, mind and spirit are both being pushed to extreme limits. Any little setback could close the window of opportunity that is being opened right now for the transplant.
While it's incredibly difficult, especially for Tricia, to understand why she can't be with the baby right now, we must trust that the doctors are doing what is best for both of them...it is in large part because of her great medical team that she has made it this far. We have both had several emotional conversations about this topic with several members of Tricia's team and have come to the place where we're doing what we can to trust God with this situation.
So, thank you for your concern about this topic, and please know that we are at peace (or, at least, trying to be) with trusting that God and the medical teams are doing what is best for us right now. We very much appreciate your continued prayers and kind words and thoughts as our journey continues to become more and more tiresome and stressful.